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Rationalization: "The creating of self-satisfying but false good reasons for one's behavior." Often we do not know why we do what we do, and probably such ignorance is okay, or should be. Our temptation is always to describe, but that often does nothing useful. In fact, it could just enter the way in which of real understanding. 

Justification - A Clinical Example 

When John went along to the hypno-therapist, he was hypnotised, and given the post-hypnotic instruction to obtain up and wear his coat whenever the therapist touched his nose. Once he was from the trance, they started initially to speak. His nose was scratched by the therapist at some point in the discussion, and John straight away stood up and wear his coat. 

If the counselor asked him why, John described "Oh, I thought he took off the coat and we were finished," and lay down again. Briefly a short while later, the doctor touched his nose again. John again straight away stood up and placed on his coat. "It is getting cold in here," he explained this time. He never knew he was instinctively responding to a post-hypnotic suggestion. 

Of course, if you believe about any of it for a minute, you'll realize that this scenario is not unique to hypnosis. Many factors get into our actions and decisions, and we act as though we're conscious of them all. Like bad John, we feel compelled to explain ourselves - and to believe our answers. Certainly one of our strongest practices is clarification. 

Just Say 'I Do not Know' 

When a son or daughter includes a dish at his brother, and his mother demands "Why can you do that!?" he says, "I do not know." It's almost certainly the straightforward answer, but it is not acceptable. With hours to examine the little one, a pychologists mightn't understand the child's action with certainty, but a six-year-old is likely to understand his behavior and have an explanation ready in seconds. 

Now, he may not understand his own motivations, but he quickly understands that an explanation is expected. As adulthood, it is rare for any of us to state "I don't know" when asked about our behavior, by a result. We immediately describe. This can be a issue, is not it? If we already accept our rationalizations just how can we learn the real causes? 

Perhaps a better method is to enter the practice of saying "I don't know." For the sake of our own comfort, we could follow with "Maybe it is because of..." and allow facts spill out, so long as we are not too quick to just accept any one of them. We must realize that it's not necessarily necessary to explain. 

Suppose, for instance, that you will be preventing a person, and don't really know why. Isn't it better to leave the question open than to simply accept a false description based on a pattern of self-justification? You may someday have a better understanding, if you leave issues unanswered. Quick solutions mean a quick stop in your thinking. 

Self-explanation could be the opposite of self-understanding. Perhaps it's time to learn to accept our ignorance, and to begin seeing ourselves. Just say, "I don't know," to break the pattern of rationalization. [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9PP1dwfWaYI rate us online]