Jesus-Driven Mentorship

I have heard about the term "mentorship" or "mentoring" or "mentor" a great number of times in my own adult life. Though I have always known what this term means, I've hardly ever really looked further into its meaning, until now.Wikipedia identifies mentorship as personal development relationship in which a experienced or more knowledgeable individual helps a experienced or less knowledgeable person.If I were to translate this into a more Christ-like definition, I would determine mentorship as a development relationship in which a mature Christian helps a mature Christian in places where the mentor has been tried,, and has prevailed. I also would like to add that Christian mentorship is established on the Word of God.Of course the Word of God becomes alive to us through our personal experiences. As an example, anything I reveal to you this is a consequence of my very own personal experience how I could apply God's Word and rule over specific conditions. Without these individual experiences, all I am teaching are concepts, which I believe is not correct mentorship. A true Christian coach is somebody who has been through what you are getting through. Your situation is known by her since she is been there. She just didn't study it but she's experienced it for herself. Which means true Christian mentorship is experiential over theoretical.As I have described early in the day, the inspiration of Christian mentorship is via Christ. He and His Word would be the focal points of helping. The mentor's work is to always point her mentee to Jesus and His Word, and to not herself. It's so easy for a mentee to be determined by her, look up to her coach, and also idolize her. It's likewise easy-for advisors to produce their mentees feel this way and to even want their mentees to feel this way towards them. Our human nature has a tendency to want and appreciate having someone based on us. It makes us feel well about ourselves. This being the case, a mentor must be very careful that she and her mentee are always brought back to the fact of mentorship... To become like Jesus.One of-the crucial issues that a mentor must keep in mind is that she's just a company. At the onset of helping, the teacher must make this clear for the mentee. A teacher can not play God over her mentee. She can't be around for her mentee 24/7 since no body but God can do this. This is actually the greatest mistake that a lot of Christian teachers create. This is really setting up the mentee to look up to her mentor over Jesus Christ.A Christian mentor should set certain boundaries and guidelines such as: (1) how often she can be available for her mentee; and (2) regions where she can help and which she can't help her mentee with.Let us examine the initial parameter first: How often should a be available for her mentee?A mentor can set a normal schedule for coaching. She could choose how many days a week and how many hours per session. She must do this such as a consultant with an even more rigorous routine. This way, the mentee doesn't call the advisor at any given moment of-the day, or just because she's having a poor day. This was among the biggest mistakes I have produced in days gone by and which is why I'm sharing it along with you now.I used to think that it was my duty to be around for anyone who needs me. I had a 14 year old girl entrusted in my experience by our youth pastor and she was a leech. She would call me at 3am and I was always there on her. I did not really help her at all. I just enabled her to cling in my experience as opposed to made her depend on Jesus. I love what among my sisters in-the Lord has on her voice-mail. It goes something similar to this... "I am sorry I can't come to the phone at this time but when you are calling for some crisis, go contact Jesus."Now let's continue with the 2nd parameter: Areas where in actuality the mentor can and can't support her mentee with.As a mentor, you've in all honesty with your-self in regards to what you can and can not do. When she needs it are you considering in a position to provide refuge to your mentee? Will you be able to support her financially if she needs it? Are you able to look for a job for her if she needs it? Again, be honest with your-self. When there is no way it is possible to provide refuge to get a mentee, then let her know. From the a friend and sister-in the Lord who got a mentee into her tiny, modest home. This mentee was dealing with medicines and needed a temporary spot to stay. While her husband was there then one morning, my sister in the Lord saw her mentee walking over the room in-a towel. My friend then realized how hazardous that was and finally informed her mentee that she can't keep nowadays in her home. Reward God she noticed that. However, had she established her guidelines at the beginning, that occurrence would not have happened. The last point a mentor needs to happen is her mentee feeling hurt or rejected.I was talking to a teenage girl lately (who I have not met face-to-face) and she desired to hightail it from home. I offered her a and godly assistance and she said that I did not understand what she was going through and that I did not really care about her. So I asked her, "So what do you want me to complete for you?" And she couldn't answer me. I then told her, "I can not do much since I am not there with you. I can also not offer you a place to stay because I don't even have my own place." Then she said, "Well then you're not the best person to discuss to."This is what I'm speaing frankly about. We have to be clear as to what we can and can't do. Had I overextended myself for this kid, I would have added more to her hurt.Lastly, as a coach, you've to remember that you can't be putting on others more than what you are ingesting. Your goal must be your individual relationship with Jesus. The tougher this relationship is built by you, the greater mentor you will be for others.